The Kenwood KDC-BTxHD models look promising.
Their top-of-the-line 958 seems to have the features I was looking for, minus SD, plus unnecessary CD -- found it for $180. Unfortunately, Kenwood has reduced the EQ to 7 bands in favor of 3-line display, wireless/voice browsing, dual USB, etc.
I could step down to a 2-line display and get the 758 with 13-band EQ for a little over a hundred bucks. Not bad. One eBay seller claims a 13-band parametric
EQ, yet Kenwood's site specs it as normal/graphic instead.. naughty naughty!
The Kenwoods apparently don't accept FLAC. I know I didn't spec that in the OP want list, but it's worth considering.
Pioneer says their 13-band EQ is customizable on the MVH-X580BS, but it's apparently not parametric. This model does, however, work with FLAC.
I guess I could go with a 9-band parametric EQ (à la Alpine) which should provide at least as much control as a 13-band slider/graphic.
EQ (and time correction/staging/imaging/etc.) won't matter that much with my current speaker setup, but I'm thinking ahead to a potential, future, total system upgrade, and would rather avoid having to add an external EQ.
I took a look at the Alpine CDE-HD149BT and it does impress. At $250-$300, it's more than I wanted to spend, but like I said, it may not be long before I buy another DD, and, although it will be late model, it may not have as capable OEM receiver as this, so it's worth considering. It may be more difficult to match dash illumination with this receiver, since it only offers 4 colors. But I suppose green is green, blue is blue, etc.
The UTE-62BT sells for around $140-$160. It takes FLAC, whereas the 149 doesn't. Alpine says it has fixed red illumination, but the image on their site and pix of the box that I've seen show white display with blue buttons, and the Crutchfield YT video shows the colors of both the buttons and the display being changed, independently!
For about the same price as the Pioneer model above, the Kenwood KDC-BT758HD includes the HD tuner and the unnecessary CD player.
I took a look at the available HD programming in the Houston area and am not that impressed, so an HD tuner isn't going to be a deal maker or breaker for me.
Since they're about the same price, I would hope the Pioneer sound Q and perhaps tuner performance are better than the Kenwood to make up the difference.
I'm aware that Kenwood = JVC and Pioneer Corp. = themselves, so there's that.
Do Clarion and Blaupunkt make good car audio these days? Most of my experience repairing audio is with home units, but if memory serves, Blaupunkt in particular used to have a problem with their faceplates dying and replacements had to be recoded (not talking about the security code for the entire unit), and this was a PITA to make work.
Thanks for the tips and recommendations so far. I'm far from pulling the trigger, so keep 'em coming.