I think the major problem with asking for shock advice is that very few people have had multiple kinds of shocks in the same car, so they can say what they like, but can't compare them to other options.
I have Bilsteins and absolutely love them, but I've never had Konis or Tokiko's in the T-Bird to compare them to.
As for bars, what are you looking for. I have been running the stock front bar with the smallest AADCO bar. It's a pretty good matchup, although the front is a little looser than the read, but it's the cheapest way to get a good feel.
I'm in the process of adding a little power to my bird and opted to upgrade to the biggest sway bar. With what I'm gonna end up with power wise, I can't afford to have any body roll at all.
The other thing to consider is launch at the dragstrip, if that is important to you. The stiffer the bars, the slower the launch. The car will not 'set' on the rear suspension as well with the stiffer bars. In my case I opted to give up a bit of launch to keep the car a bit tamer for the street.
But I'm keeping the Bilsteins.... sorry guys they ain't for sale. But the small rear bar will be...
'96 T-Bird LX 4.6L Alive & well & living in S. Florida
N/A: Renegade NPI heads/Comp Cams; OEM intake manifold; Bolt-ons
245 rwhp; 13.713 @ 99.35 (Commerce, GA - November 2003)
BLOWN: Renegade NPI heads; Renegade shortblock; Intercooled T-Trim; some other stuff
Pump Gas Numbers - 547 rwhp / 525 ft.lbs; Best Time - 11.388 @ 118.68 (Commerce, GA - November 2007)